Social media, such as Facebook and Twitter, continue to provide a popular forum for students to connect with one another and post personal profiles. While the long-term effects of building virtual communities remain to be seen, chances are that your student and her peers are currently part of the growing trend of using virtual communities to build real relationships. These sites can be wonderful tools for students to express themselves, learn more about others, and build technological skills, but it is important for them to keep in mind both the benefits and the risks inherent with use. As a parent, you can encourage your student to consider the potential costs associated with these convenient communities and help them stay safe as they utilize these resources.
How parents can help students stay safe online
People often forget that the Internet's pseudonym is the world wide web. Almost anyone in the world can access information posted from a personal computer. While safety and security are important, so is one's reputation. In today's technological world, many of us are quick to casually write what we are thinking, without first stopping to think about how it might be interpreted. Additionally, we tend to assume that the Internet is an anonymous forum for communication, when this isn't the reality. It is not uncommon today for people—including potential employers—to do a web search to find out more about an individual. An offensive or inappropriate online entry will not be missed. Ask students to consider the following questions before posting information online:
- Could I jeopardize my opportunity to obtain a leadership position on campus or in the community by posting this information in my online profile?
- Is it possible for future employers to see a photograph of me engaged in unethical, dangerous, or even illegal activities?
- Could I be held responsible for violating a campus policy if an administrator saw what I am about to post?
- Would I be proud to present my profile to members of my family?
Meeting online friends in person
It's quite possible that students may eventually want to meet an online friend in person. Gently remind students to take safety precautions in these circumstances, such as:
- Choosing a public place like a coffee shop or dining hall for the first meeting.
- Setting a time frame in which to meet, so a definite end time is established.
- Making sure someone knows where your student will be and making a plan to check-in with one another at an established time.
Protecting private information
Online predators search for unsuspecting victims. One way they do this is by obtaining personal information from posted profiles. Just because a profile asks for a piece of personal information doesn't mean it must be provided. Additionally, most online communities offer the option to make parts of a profile accessible only to friends, rather than the broader community, even though the default setting is usually public. Remind your student to be smart and safe with these simple precautions.
Benefits of cyber communities
- Conveniently connect with others.
- Learn about other students who share similar interests.
- Advertise events to a wide audience.
- Coordinate academic initiatives and groups.
- Communicate quickly and easily with friends.
Challenges of online communities
- People can be artificial or insincere about shared information.
- Personal and private information is available to a large population of people, so misunderstandings happen.
- Spending too much time online can interfere with schoolwork and other obligations.
- Assumptions are made based on posted information.